Monday, July 28th 2014 Thoughts
A few weeks ago I saw a post on Twitter from a young designer that I follow about being weary about putting her opinions out there in the world. She wasn’t worried about what an average random Josie might think of her, but rather, what about her fellow artists? What would the people who she interacted with within her business every day think? Would they judge her because she had a different opinion, or because she felt strongly towards another side of an argument/debate? My automatic response was what I’d tell anyone…
Personally, if people can’t accept you for who you are, opinions included, they’re not really worth worrying about.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand the fear. I understand the fear of someone you look up to or someone you enjoy having conversations or a partnership with looking at you in a different light than what they usually do. Or perhaps someone you don’t know, who doesn’t know your personality making a snap judgment about you based on one tiny thing. The thing is, though, that fear shouldn’t exist. The fact of the matter is that we all have opinions, some of them stick to the majority, some of them don’t but one of the things that makes life so worthwhile is that we’re different.
Our differences create conversations, they create important points in our lives and in our world that require us to think about other people. To have compassion and respect for others. Not all people have the ability to do that, but the majority does, and we shouldn’t be scared of how it’s going to reflect back on us or our business by being ourselves or saying how we feel, or what we think. If that’s how we’re leading our lives, or our businesses then how authentic can we really be for our friends or clients? If something is important to you, speak up – take a stand, do something about it. In the end if you lose a few blog followers, or a client or two, and yeah it suck for a little bit – but I promise you, you’re going to find people who understand what you’re saying and either agree or are going to accept you not only for your amazing personality but your opinions as well.
There is so much to be scared of in the world, and the list seems to be getting increasingly larger – but being yourself and standing up for things you believe in should never be one of them. There are two quotes that I really love that say this more perfectly than I ever could:
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Bernard M. Baruch (or possibly Dr. Seuss…)
“I’d rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.” – Kurt Cobain
To sum it all up, life is too short to worry about the haters. Worry about yourself first, and your business second, authenticity is more important and those who are really into what you do, will accept that it’s okay for you to have your own opinions. If you’re going to bed at night thinking ‘I really want to say this,’ or ‘I should have said something,’ well then, you know what you have to do dontcha?